When You Don't Have Time
Updated: Jan 29, 2020
Everyone reading this post has uttered to themselves at one point or another, "I just don't have time to ________". Adding insult to injury, most of your fill-in-the-blanks have to do with something for yourself, not for other people. We are so good at making time for others, but often neglect to create time for what we truly want or need.
And you know what the truth is? We all have the same amount of time. Time is cyclical. It goes on and on, regardless of how we choose to spend it. Some people are better at making their time count than others. So, what's the truth behind "I just don't have time"?
The truth is, you're probably right. You don't have time. But not because you have less of it than others. Instead, you're filling it up with things that don't truly matter. Let's take a look at some ways to create more time.
1. Make your time important to you.
Show your time the honor and respect that it deserves. That looks like thinking of time not as a clock ticking, but as something that's on your side. As something that you have an abundance of, and yet, you never know when it will run out. Hold it precious. Make is sacred. You will never get time back. You can't speed it up or slow it down. Each moment is your own - make those moments count. Be selective about how to spend it.
2. Prioritize what truly matters to you.
Take a look at your weekly or daily schedule. If you feel like you're always busy than there are most definitely things that you're spending your time on that are not aligned with your values. For example, I noticed a few months back that I was spending way too much time on Instagram. That was not aligning for me (for others, it might be perfectly fine). So, I needed to re-prioritize. I asked myself: What do I want to do with my time instead? What are my values and how can they be represented in my time? What value does Instagram have and what do I want to get out of it? Asking myself these questions on a regular basis as I notice ebbs and flows with my time has been invaluable.
3. Practice saying 'no'.
I volunteered at my son's school once a week for the entirety of last year. I made that choice because being involved in my son's education and creating a unified community for him are important to me. However, this year when it came time to volunteer again, I knew that my priorities had shifted (I need more space for my business) and that I needed to say 'no'. Screening phone calls is practicing saying 'no'. Not attending a birthday party could be practicing saying 'no'. Notice where you find yourself saying 'yes' when you really don't want to. Start small if you need to. It may feel weird at first, but it's oh-so-freeing!
4. Practice saying 'yes'.
"But what ?! You just told me to practice saying no?!" Right. Practice saying no to others. To obligations and things that aren't priorities. But start saying yes to yourself. To your desires, your needs, your true wants. To things that are aligning for you. That thing you "just don't have time for", say yes to that. Show up for yourself. Make it happen. Do you want to take a bath? Do it. Do you want to start exercising? Meditating? Reading more? Do the thing. Say yes to you, yes to your time, and yes to your priorities.
5. Take away the power of busy.
I could write a whole blog post about our societies obsession with being busy (and I probably will at some point). Reflect on where the word busy comes up for you and what you associate the word with. Do you get something out of being busy? How is being busy (or thought of as busy) serving you? In our society, we often associate busy-ness with productivity, abundance, and strong work ethic. Many of us want people to think that we're busy. Or we equate our worth to how busy we are and we do all we can to avoid being idle. What would your life look like if you took away the power of busy?
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